As an interfaith minister, I am privileged to provide you with compassionate support during times of loss. I offer ceremonies for most life events, but not funerals. The empathy that is so essential for all my work means I feel the raw grief immediately after death very very deeply which means I don’t feel able to hold space the way family and friends need it, at a crematorium or graveside.
As I closed the door to one set of ceremonies for loss, another one opened though, when I realised I had a calling to support individuals and families a bit further down the line of their journey of loss and saying goodbye.
Dealing with ashes usually happens some time after the loss, when both professional support and support from family and friends is less easy to find. A final act of letting go can be hard and overwhelming though and that’s where I am offering my help! Whether it’s holding space for families who are deliberating what to do with ashes, supporting with rituals for scattering or internment of ashes, or scattering ashes in Scotland for those who are unable to fulfill the wishes of their loved ones themselves, it’s a privilege to minister to those often overlooked needs.
CONDUCTING AN ASHES CEREMONY WITH FAMILY & FRIENDS ATTENDING
Scattering ashes is yet another step of letting go, but because of limited support and experience, the planning and ultimate event can be very lonely and overwhelming. I conduct personalised ceremonies in the Highlands of Scotlands that bring comfort and closure to all who attend in a natural setting, honouring the final wishes of your loved one. As part of my support I will advise on suitable locations, permissions and legalities, as well as methods. On the day, with compassion and sensitivity, I create a space where memories are shared and farewells are said, and where families and friends can focus on this part without worrying about anything else.
SCATTERING ASHES IN THE SCOTTISH HIGHLANDS ON YOUR BEHALF
Because not everyone can travel to be present for the scattering of ashes, I offer our services to scatter ashes on behalf of families who are unable to make the journey to the Highlands of Scotland, ensuring their loved one is honoured with utmost respect. Whatever natural environment you choose – sea, coast, mountains or woodlands, I can support with finding the right place and will conduct a respectful ceremony.
CREATING AN ASHES CEREMONY YOU CAN DELIVER YOURSELF
For many the final goodbye of scattering ashes is very personal and so you may want to keep it as a private event. Or maybe you are looking to scatter ashes outside the Highlands of Scotland, or in other parts of the United Kingdom or even beyond, and so it’s not practical for me to support you in person. For those cases I am happy to work with you on creating a ceremony that you can deliver yourself, as an indivudual or shared with family and friends. We will work together in crafting a flow of steps, including any rituals or readings you choose and I can help you compose the parts you want to say, or write parts or all of the ceremony for you. I will also support you with questions about locatons and methods of scattering ashes.
